What It Means To Be A Stepmom On Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day is upon us.
That Sunday in May where a lot of us will be planning something special for the mothers in our lives.
For the most part, we will try to give thanks to mothers for their love, encouragement, blood, sweat, and tears spent raising us in this world.
Some of us will cry on this day over the mothers we have lost — or cast our eyes downward in disappointment over the mothers we never knew.
Hopefully, more of us than not will be able to call, send a card to, or see our mothers in person.
There also exists a certain group of women out there who may find this day awkward, disappointing, or even painful.
Stepmoms.
Being a stepmom myself, I know this feeling.
Whether you’re more of a full-time stepmom or an every-other-weekend stepmom — with biological children or not — Mother’s Day can feel like a poignant slap in the face.
Although there is now a ‘Stepmother’s Day’ on the Sunday following Mother’s Day, it’s not exactly widely known or treated in the same way that Mother’s Day is.
But just to let all of you brave stepmoms out there know — this is ok.
It’s ok that you don’t have an ‘official’ day the whole world recognizes where everyone has to stop and intentionally recognize YOU.
You’re still amazing. You’re also still worthy and you still have the guts of steel to continue on your step-mothering journey day after day.
Some of us stepmoms are fortunate enough to have stepchildren who make us cards or something special to pay tribute to our efforts.
And… some of us don’t.
I think we should appreciate all parents, grandparents, guardians, teachers, and people in our lives who help raise our children daily. But, traditionally, in our culture, there are very special days assigned to those designated special people, and Mother’s Day happens to be one of them.
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