What Do You Think About During Sex?

Where’s the line between desirous thoughts that rev up our sexual engine and a hurtful betrayal of our partner(s)?

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I’d be lying if I said that I’m always completely ‘in the moment’ with my partner every time we have sex.

This got me wondering…

Do most people exclusively focus on the partner they’re with during sex, or do they occasionally think about something — or someone—else?

After all, throughout any given day, we as people are constantly inundated with the temptation of distraction and the ongoing stress of daily responsibilities.

Did I turn on the dishwasher? Did that email I’ve been waiting for come through? Can the kids hear us? I hope this doesn’t take too long because I have to get up early tomorrow. These are just some of the thoughts I’ve had during sex — and I know I’m not the only one.

Is it always just the partner you’re with who maintains all of your mental attention during intimate moments,  or is it someone else? Do you have a fantasy about another person in your mind that helps get you in the mood? Maybe a celebrity or even an ex, perhaps?